Relationship-building

Relationship-building

Listen to a trainer talking about the importance of relationship-building as a competency.

Do the preparation task first. Then listen to the audio and do the exercises.

Preparation

Transcript

So, as we have seen, then, relationship-building is not the same as team-building. When we talk about relationship-building, we're talking about a competency in which we cultivate relationships both inside and outside the workplace, with individuals and groups.

I'm going to sum up by suggesting practical ideas of how you can all develop your relationship-building competency ... tips that you can easily incorporate into your day-­to-­day lives in such a way that they will eventually become a habit.

I'm going to talk about informal relationships, but as we discussed earlier, the ideas can be transferred to a more formal environment. First I'll talk about initiating new relationships and then I'll mention a few ways that you can practise developing existing relationships.

Let's start off with the obvious. Common sense is always a good starting point. The first thing we should all do is to practise simple courtesies. This might seem like common sense to some people, but in actual fact you'd be surprised at how many people do neglect these things. Set yourself a goal to say 'Good morning' to three people you normally wouldn't.

We should also try to get to know colleagues outside the office. Ask people what their interests are. If you share an interest in tennis, say, suggest a game. Plan an occasional social event with co­-workers. It doesn't have to be anything complicated – a coffee together or a picnic lunch, for example.

Another thing you can do is to actually target somebody in your office – somebody you would like to know better. Make it your goal to talk to them. Small talk is fine. Listen to what they say and take notice of the information you learn about their interests. Make sure you keep yourself up to date on what's happening in the world too. You won't be very good at small talk if you don't know about current affairs.

So let's imagine that we've done these things and that we've started a few new relationships. What can we do to develop them further? How can we nurture the relationships so they don't just fizzle out or stay on a plane?

Well, for a start we should focus on a person's good qualities and not on their deficiencies. Nobody's perfect, after all.

We should also practise effective listening. We are all good at speaking, but how many of us really listen? And people want to be listened to. They appreciate it and they respond. Try it!

If we are in a conflictive situation with somebody, we should focus on the issue and not on the person. So, we can hammer out a point of disagreement, but then shake hands and go for a coffee. Usually it is an issue that is the problem and not a person.

Choose somebody who you consider to be an acquaintance and make a point of learning something new about his or her interests. Think of some questions that you can ask them for when you next meet.

Finally, when you are talking to people with whom you have a relationship of some kind, get into the habit of asking open­-ended questions. That way they'll be able to give their points of view. Sometimes people just need to have the chance to say what they think … and very often it doesn't happen.

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Submitted by sucrisvieira on Wed, 07/02/2024 - 21:09

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I'm brazilian and I'm learning English for working on my job and this plataform is very good!
I hope that my Relationship and my comunication in Ensglish improve.

Thank you to those involved!

Submitted by saidbek on Sun, 29/10/2023 - 17:05

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I think that now I found the best website to practise in my own a home. Therefore, I should say thank you for all of these materials which are really helpfull for learning English

Hi saidbek,

We are glad to know that you found the materials useful! Thanks, and we hope you continue to enjoy your English learning here.

Jonathan

LearnEnglish team

Submitted by StevenMP on Tue, 31/05/2022 - 21:52

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This was such helpful information. It is fundamental to have a good environment at workplace and where everyone feel comfortable.
Relationship-building is not something difficult, with some small actions we can start improving our relationships.
These practices for sure will help me to have better relationships with my colleagues.
Thank you!

Submitted by katya_andrv on Tue, 02/11/2021 - 13:29

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thank you very much for the useful information, I think these tips will help me now and in the future with colleagues at work!

Submitted by a.koprov on Mon, 01/11/2021 - 15:08

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If we are in a conflict situation with someone, we should focus on the problem and not on the person. As for me, this is the most correct solution to the conflict, because sometimes I forget about the problem itself and we are already talking about a person, this is wrong, thanks to this information I will not make such a mistake

Submitted by Лада on Mon, 01/11/2021 - 13:31

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Thanks to the trainer for such important information! I believe these tips will help build relationships. Of course, being polite, getting to know your colleagues outside the office, getting to know your colleagues better and keeping up with them informally is very important! It was also correctly noted that in order to continue such communication, it is necessary to focus on the good qualities of a person, to be able to listen, to ask open questions - in general, to be a good interlocutor, and in case of a quarrel, pay attention to the problem, and not to the bad qualities of the interlocutor. I think these tips can help anyone build relationships with colleagues. Thanks again for the information!

Submitted by GiulianaAndy on Fri, 16/07/2021 - 22:58

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Hello, great lesson. I have a question. Here you go: 2) Neither of the movies were interesting. They were both boring. My question is about this sentence, I saw it on an English exercise page, I think that it must be: " Neither of the movies was interesting. They were both boring", but I'm not quite sure if "was" is correct in that sentence. Could you help me with that issue, please?

Hello GiulianaAndy,

In traditional grammar, neither takes a singular verb. However, this is slowly changing and a plural verb is becoming more accepted when the noun after 'of' is plural.

I would say that in very formal writing you are better off using a singular verb. However, in less formal contexts a plural form is becoming acceptable in modern English.

 

Peter

The LearnEnglish Team

Submitted by Barawas on Mon, 11/01/2021 - 05:03

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Also, being humble, caring, helping, and respecting really helps in relationship-building!