Conflict management

Conflict management

Many people feel uncomfortable with conflict but it can help us to develop. Here are eight tips for managing conflict more effectively.

Do the preparation task first. Then read the article and do the exercises.


Knowing how to handle conflict is an important professional skill. Conflict at work can affect the motivation and well-being of staff and create unnecessary distractions and stress. People with conflict management skills resolve disagreements quickly and effectively, enabling effective teamwork and maximum productivity. Successful conflict management also helps to create an atmosphere in which individuals can learn from others, develop their talents and think creatively. Conflict management can be challenging, but people who do it well are highly valued by their colleagues and companies. 

Fight or flight

When conflict arises, we can often see nature's fight-or-flight response – either attacking the enemy or running away. The 'fight' reaction is when people start to prepare themselves for an argument. But by getting aggressive, they might not only damage their relationships but also miss the chance of growing through constructive feedback.

The 'flight' response involves ignoring the issue altogether. People suppress their feelings, hide disagreements and pretend that everything is fine when it is not. However, the conflict remains unresolved and the problem gets worse.

So how can we go beyond our immediate reactions to make conflict a source of trust-building and development? Here are eight tips to help us manage conflict successfully.

1. Consider the best time and place for the conversation.

While it is important to talk about the issue, doing it in the wrong place and in front of the wrong people can result in embarrassment and an inability to truly listen. If possible, make an appointment to sit down and talk through the issue with the people involved. 

2. Assume positive intentions.

If you walk into a conversation assuming that you're not liked or that you're going to be attacked, you'll most likely spend that time defending yourself and feeling angry and hurt. 

Remember that you're going through this process because people want to resolve the issue and get along. So start by assuming that their intentions are positive and that the things they are going to say are for the good of the team. This will allow for an open conversation that aims to improve the situation rather than make it worse.

3. Make sure it's a two-way conversation.

A conversation is not a monologue. It is not a chance for one party to list all the things they are angry and unhappy about without letting the other person react. A real conversation allows all parties to share their perspectives and collaborate to find a satisfactory way forward. If you find yourself in a monologue, stop and ask some questions.

4. Listen and be open to change.

Many of us think we listen but instead are simply waiting for our chance to respond. Put your thoughts aside for the moment and truly listen when the other person is speaking. Growth and development are only possible if you allow their words to change you.

5. Be specific about the issue and the impact.

It's easy to generalise and make broad accusations, for example using statements such as You always ... or You never ... However, this often results in a defensive response. Instead, be specific about what the issue is, give examples and be clear about the impact of the problem. Be as objective as you can and avoid personal attacks.

6. Don't bring up the past.

Some of us feel the need to bring up less relevant past events to gain an advantage over our conversation partner. This can make people feel defensive and distract everyone from the main point of the conversation. Try to focus on the main issue and how to make things better. 

7. Take responsibility for your part in the problem.

We are not perfect and we make mistakes. Consider how you might have contributed to the problem and take responsibility for it. This not only demonstrates your desire to work as a team but also shows that you are not just looking for an opportunity to blame the other party.

8. Focus on the future.

Conversations about conflict are often focused on what shouldn't have been and what could have been done. Instead, focus on the future. What steps can you take to resolve the problem? How can you avoid this happening again?

With careful management, conflicts can help us make the most of our differences and find a way of working together successfully.

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Submitted by ayate on Tue, 30/01/2024 - 10:20


I think this topic is very useful and we should practice conflict management not only in our work but also in our personal life
we should find the right moment to speak We also it's important to learn listening skill etc.....

Submitted by on Thu, 16/11/2023 - 07:24


I prefer to listen to everyone's thoughts before sharing my own and offering efficient problem-solving advice.

yeah you are right, it's an effective way to not react to any bad reaction
you should listen to others first that decide what u will do

Submitted by Nanda23 on Mon, 10/04/2023 - 01:27


I always listen to both sides of the story and wait for the best time to talk.

Submitted by FeliipeAndresA on Sun, 02/04/2023 - 02:04


I just stay calm. People usually are waiting for you for sending them back offensive words. But if they see that you're not going to that place where they're trying to take you, they regulate their own temperament.

Good words for silly people.

Submitted by arashjahanbakht on Wed, 19/10/2022 - 13:02


Hello! Question 1 of task 1 seems quite vague to me because of option 2. you've considered "All of the above" as the right answer and I really can't figure out why option 2 involves the answer. I suspect that it might be wrong. If there is no problem, could you explain the answer, please?


Option 2 states [conflict can] "help staff develop".

I think the key point confirming this is in the paragraph 4: "Growth and development are only possible if you allow their words to change you." This is clearly a reference to how conflict can be an opportunity for development.



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Submitted by Hai Vu on Sun, 16/10/2022 - 05:12


Personally, I try to keep a neutral attitude to perceive problem and stay calm as much as possible in the argument to not take any personal emotion into my behavior or decision.

Submitted by Nandar Su Hlaing on Wed, 07/09/2022 - 14:20


Firstly, I remind by myself to calm down after that thinking about the problem how to solve it and what is the best solution and asking suggestion from my manager or senior to get the best result.

Submitted by ricardomunoz2703 on Sat, 02/07/2022 - 12:09


How do you normally deal with conflict at work? Do you have any tips?
Depends on the situation. For example:
If I am angry at the moment of the conflict I prefer to calm by myself then I ask to the people involve in the problem to make a meeting in order to talk about an solve. But normally I am the person who try to avoid problems and I know that It is not good. I am going to use these tips when the problems will arise.
Thanks for the information