Level: beginner

The reflexive pronouns are:

singular: myself yourself himself herself itself
plural: ourselves yourselves themselves

We use a reflexive pronoun as a direct object when the object is the same as the subject of the verb:

I am teaching myself to play the piano.
Be careful with that knife. You might cut yourself.

We can use a reflexive pronoun as direct object with most transitive verbs, but these are the most common:

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Be careful!

We do not use a reflexive pronoun after verbs which describe things people usually do for themselves:

He washed in cold water.
He always shaved before going out in the evening.
Michael dressed and got ready for the party.

We only use reflexives with these verbs for emphasis:

He dressed himself in spite of his injuries.
She’s old enough to wash herself.

Level: intermediate

We use reflexive pronouns as an indirect object when the indirect object is the same as the subject of the verb:

Would you like to pour yourself a drink?
We’ve brought ourselves something to eat.

We use reflexive pronouns as the object of a preposition when the object is the same as the subject of the verb:

They had to cook for themselves.
He was feeling very sorry for himself.

but we use object pronouns, not reflexives, after prepositions of place:

He had a suitcase beside him. (NOT himself)

and after with when it means accompanied by:

She had a few friends with her. (NOT herself)

We use reflexives with the preposition by:

  • to show that someone did something without any help:

The children got dressed by themselves.
I prepared the whole meal by myself.

  • to show that someone was alone:

He lived by himself in an enormous house.
She walked home by herself.

We use reflexive pronouns to emphasise the person or thing we are referring to:

Kendal itself is quite a small town.

  • especially if we are talking about someone very famous:

Sir Paul McCartney himself sang the final song.

We often put the reflexive pronoun at the end of the clause when we are using it for emphasis:

I baked the bread myself.
She mended the car herself.

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Reflexive pronouns 3


Level: advanced

Some verbs change their meaning slightly when they have a reflexive pronoun as direct object:

Would you like to help yourself to another drink?
     = Would you like to take another drink?
I wish the children would behave themselves.
     = I wish the children would behave well.
He found himself lying by the side of the road.
     = He was surprised when he realised that he was lying by the side of the road.
I saw myself as a famous actor.
     = I imagined that I was a famous actor.
She applied herself to the job of mending the lights.
     = She worked very hard to mend the lights.
He busied himself in the kitchen.
     = He worked busily in the kitchen.
I had to content myself with a few euros.
     = I had to be satisfied with a few euros.

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Reflexive pronouns 5



Hello Isuru Lakmal,

Although 'a large number' in the phrase 'a large number of stars' is singular and so the singular verb form 'there was' makes sense, a plural verb ('there were') is used here.

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The LearnEnglish Team

Hi Kirk,

Could you please explain that sentence again, why it is incorrect?
It is not correct because of the wrong verb ("there was") or using "by himself".

Moreover, what does "there" mean in the second sentence, "The director by himself was also there"? Does it mean, "the director" was also a famous person?

Best regards,

Hello pddthinh,

I got distracted by the first sentence and didn't notice the second one. The biggest error in the two sentences in the second one. It should be 'The direct himself was also there'. This is because 'himself' places emphasis on the director. It's not that he was there alone -- this wouldn't make sense given the previous sentence.

Does that make sense now?

All the best,
The LearnEnglish Team

Thank you, Kirk. It is clear now.

Best regards,

What about a group on whatsapp? So we can help one another...

Hi, Sir. in this example he said 'I prepared the whole meal by myself.' but in this example he said 'I baked the bread myself' why he used 'by myself' in the first and he just used 'myself' in the next because I think the meaning is so close. could you please explain that point?

Hello mohamedfathy,

In saying, 'by myself' means that he did it alone, without anyone else's help. 'myself' (as in the example you cite) emphasises that I baked the bread, not a different person. The meanings are very similar, but can be used to emphasise different points.

All the best,
The LearnEnglish Team

Hello,sir. Still now I was not able to understand the fine line between these two sentences( by myself and myself.) Thanks in advance.

Hello Yadav1977,

I think the best thing to do would be to try the two activities on this page. Then you could ask us a specific question about a specific sentence or two. If you explain to use how you see them, we can help you better.

All the best,
The LearnEnglish Team

Thank you, Kirk