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Getting advice

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Upper intermediate: B2

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What makes me feel nervous or anxiety is to do something knowing that someone is waiting for me to get great results about it.

When I read the comments and the text above I felt really surprised. I didn´t think there were so many people worried about things like me. What makes me feel anxious is the job and the economy. I have really studied hard in my life and despite I always have a job in my carreer, my contracts don´t take more than three or four months. Yep, it is true. When you want to control something the worries appear. You have to struggle every day to set your goals and I´m not able to sleep well ( no more than five hours). Might it be true that you sometimes see people that they don´t care things ?. It is only an appearance?, or is just about your personality?.

I'm really sad to admit that I get easily nervous and anxious, sometimes in an exaggerated way or about stupid things not deserving all the importance I give them. I expect events and things to happen in a certain way, but I can't wait peaceably like normal people do, I just start worrying and thinking about unrealistic troubles and issues or unexpected circumstances. The fear of failure is another feeling I usually have before any kind of experience, from social to professional experiences, which makes me hesitate and overthink a lot. I must confess that I have missed many opportunities, and I'm kind of introvert because of that, I fear not succeeding in getting on well with people, or being disappointed, so I just avoid building relationships either in a personal or professional context.

Hi Asni. I know that feeling 'cause I'm also an introvert person and people like us usually don't wanna get out of their comfort zone, don't wanna risk, don't wanna feel less, etc... Once I found out these things, I decided to work in myself, to try new things even though I knew it was gonna be hard at first but if you never try, you'll never know what you will earn. Surround yourself with good people, good friends that you know they'll never judge you for being like that, they'll understand you and will help you to make you feel comfortable and confidence about yourself.

I am an introverted person and feel anxious when I go into public or in a group of people they make me feel anxious every time so I just avoid going into public.

I think anxiety appears mainly when you feel that you do not have control of something. The people that suffer this disorder, it is because they are obsessed with control their full future, every single detail about what is going to happen. And obviously, It is imposible to reach that purpose because life is unpredictable. In my case, as a football trainer, I sometimes feel a little bit anxious preparing the training. I imagine what the exercises are going to be and how I want the kids to perform them. I repeat it over and over in my mind and therefore I start feeling overwhelmed. It has no sense, because if life is unpredictable, children are even more. So, my piece of advice for you, and myself, is do not overthink so much, and be ready to adapt to any situation that arise to you.
Cheers from Madrid.

I feel anxious because I don’t have job I finished university the last year and I still here stuck looking for a job in a country with awful economy, I was thinking in start my own web business but I need money to start it I thought seriously in call for a loan making an important risk. Everybody have dreams someday travel around the world, buy a house, make a family, help his parents and give support to his family with everything they needs, this situation is frustrating and sad. But everything going to be better, I know.

When people look at you and make a faking smile, particularly at work or study.

what make me anxious to talk to teacher if i had not completed the assignments or asking to them for help.To meet new people who are elder then me also makes me anxious.

What makes me feel nervous? Well, actually a lot of things. First of all, my future. As a father of two kids, I badly want to be confident in my future, in terms of finance. Parentship is a great responsibility. You brought your kids in this world and have to give them everything they need: warm and safe house, food, clothes, education, medicine, toys, of course, etc. I think every parent in the world fears losing one's job and become insolvent, so do I.
Another thing, that makes me sad and anxious, it's the present situation in my country. Unfortunately, the war came in our state. Some territory is occupated, many people dead, and, despite the war activity is decline a bit, almost every week we lose another soldier in this conflict.
In this case, I can't name the life in my country very safe and happy. All of us continue to think about another war escalation so close to our houses.
There are lots of other problems that I keep in mind: bad ecology, financial crisis, the high level of corruption and criminality here.
Well, that's it.

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