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How to turn down an invitation

Learn how to say 'no' to a formal invitation.

Do the preparation task first. Then watch the video and do the task. You can read the transcript at any time.


Man: Oh no!

Woman: What is it?

Man: 'Josh and Henrietta would like to have the pleasure of your company at a drinks party next Saturday evening ...'

Woman: Oh no, Josh and Henrietta ... they're not that couple who ...?

Man: Yeah, exactly! And it gets worse!

Woman: How?

Man: 'Formal dress'.

Woman: Argh ... It means you've got to wear a suit.

Man: At the bottom it says 'RSVP'. What does it mean?

Woman: You've got to reply.

Man: But I don't want to go, so what can I say?

Woman: Tell them you've got a dentist's appointment.

Man: Josh is my dentist!

Woman: Tell them it's your grandmother's 100th birthday party.

Man: But they know my granny died ages ago.

Woman: Tell them your dog's sick and you've got to take him to see the vet.

Man: It's no use. I'm just going to have to tell them the truth.

Woman: The truth? 'I'm not coming to your birthday party because I think you're boring and stupid?'

Man: Maybe not, then.

Woman: Tell them this: 'I'm unable to attend because I have a prior engagement.'

Man: 'Prior engagement'?! And … they won't be offended?

Woman: Absolutely not.

Man: Perfect!



Language level

Intermediate: B1


Can I mark this lesson as a completed ?

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Hi. That was very useful because they speak Authentique English, which is what we need exactly in learning languages. If you could please add subtitles to the video so that we can read as we listen, and thank you very much.

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At the second (0.50), the man Said: "Maybe not then".
is it the same like saying (Maybe not that)?

About the man's response at this situation (His body language with the light smile)
what do we call it in English?

Hello Ahmad Ali,

'then' has several meanings and uses; in this case, it's referring back to the idea that he will tell these people the truth (which he decides he doesn't want to do) -- you can see this explained in this entry for 'then'. 

As far as I know, there's no special name for the smile that he uses -- I think that here he's simply imagining the disaster that would result if he told the truth and smiling at that.

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In our country, you don't have to say anything beforehand if you turn down an invitation. But you need to call and tell them sorry later.

good start for me I enjoyed it

hi i am, Md.mahmudul Hasan.and want skill english so we can helpe me.

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