All my happy friends

How well do social media posts show real life? What is the impact of social media posts on how we feel about our lives? Watch this thought-provoking short film by Paul Howard Allen on the topic of social media and mental health.

Do the preparation task first. Then watch the video and do the exercise. Remember you can read the transcript at any time.

Transcript

Woman1: Yeah, they were smashed. Dave stole this hat from a hen party, nearly got into a fight. Yeah, that was a washout. Never mind.

Woman2: This shot shows how much I’m enjoying being a mother. I’m really treasuring every little moment. And here we all are ... all together … a family.

Man1: It’s just a typical Tuesday meal for us. It shows how healthy and balanced my life is. Made it myself.

Woman3: This photo clearly shows how advanced Millie is. I mean, writing up to five, at her age, is incredible.

Woman4: I mean, look at that beach! That’s what you call white sand, isn't it?

[singing] Three, two, one … Happy New Year!

Woman5: What a New Year’s! If next year is half as good as this one has been, then ...

Woman1: I just don’t know why I’m feeling like this.

[baby crying]
Woman1: This is the life, nothing better than relaxing with a takeaway over New Year’s. Oh, what a night! Another typical evening for me, clearly enjoying myself but then that’s the sort of fun, carefree life I lead.

[baby crying]

[singing] People tell me how I’m a-losing my mind but I tell people you just in my car. Oh, time moves faster than me, can’t you see all this job you been working I’ve been a-running free.

© 33 Story Productions

Discussion

Submitted by OlaIELTS on Fri, 15/05/2020 - 23:45

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Yes. It has. We can be protected by disregarding and skipping those one that could likely affects our mood negatively.

Submitted by Stela Stoycheva on Mon, 10/02/2020 - 14:51

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Ooo, really I think social media does not affect good of our heath....When we see someone buy new house,car, go to travelling somewhere... and It annoys us and we want it...but it`s not for our pocket :( :/

Submitted by Vidyasagar on Wed, 05/02/2020 - 02:25

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No, not that much. I'm not a social media guy. I don't have a Facebook account. No Instagram account. I follow Twitter, but very rare. But still, it affects a little through WhatsApp and YouTube. Political issues and heinous crimes affect me.

Submitted by Nanci Nunes on Wed, 06/02/2019 - 22:02

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Social media affects our mood when we have self-esteem issues. Finding your purpose in life and working on things you believe will make you feel better about your life. Consequently, you won´t pay too much attention to what you see on social media.
Hello Nanci, You've got such a way with words! In fact, I used to be affected by a social media like a personal blog. As I'm simple and honest (silly, I mean, but just trying not to see the negative side of things), I was so shocked and confused by knowing the chaos in a social media. Indeed, some people accidentally die to show off their amazing pics they took, others behave stupidly to cover up their low self-esteem issues on social media. Now that I realized I need to be more cynical about it and work on things I believe to make my life better, as you suggest!

Submitted by Abfalter Cristian on Thu, 11/10/2018 - 10:06

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Never, I spend 5 to 10 minutes a day because of my dogs on facebook, after that , it doesn't affect my life.

Submitted by Dee on Sat, 04/08/2018 - 11:58

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Disadvantages of social media are more than advantages. The addictive part of the social media is very bad and can disturb personal lives as well.The teenagers are the most affected by the addiction of the social media.Fraud and Scams,Security issues,Cheating and relationship issues,Glamorizes drugs.

Submitted by Peeperkorn on Fri, 15/06/2018 - 13:54

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This video clip shows that life is bigger than a smartphone display. Real contact needs to be together in the real world and this is not the virtual reality of social media. Here is only seeming. Don't waste your time!

Submitted by jibrilshire on Wed, 21/03/2018 - 21:55

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this video is very interesting really and shows how social media effects our lives. And i think its why allot of people have mental problems in nowadays.

Submitted by FrancktheDodger on Tue, 20/03/2018 - 15:13

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Has a social media post ever affected your mood? As for my experience with social media, I think that whatever creates social relationship could influence our behavior. Anyway, I understand why social media posts can effectively affect people’s mood. Vanity is a human wrong point, as well as envy. And when someone looks only at appearances, it is possible that such social activities might badly influence their mood. However, some people project themselves in other’s personality and experience of life, therefore the inner voyerism implied in social media could be a serious problem for them. How can we protect ourselves from this problem? I find that it is basic choosing the right way and means to express ourselves, in the most civil and clever way. For instance, we can decide what level of privacy is appropriate for each of our posts and comments. On the other hand, I think that loosing control of the number of friends is useless, after all - I mean, if we cannot understand what people are saying just in front of us, because we don’t even bother to stop and ask for clarifications, how might we cope with a crowd of strangers. Usually, social media allow to ban and hide some posts or comments, even from advertisements and this is a way to be active using them. In conclusion, we should think that people are used to embellishing their conditions, in order to show their best look and, actually, it is also a positive behavior rather than to keep on feeling sorry for oneself. But when social posts from our friends affect our mood, we should simply consider that life is always a first draft for anyone and, as a famous quote from “Some like it Hot” used to say, in the end: “Nobody is perfect”.

Submitted by elifakbıyık on Tue, 06/02/2018 - 19:14

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I think, this video is very good to show how are we feeling about other people life's.I guess we live this moment instead of watch the other people moment's.

Submitted by MOASIF1985 on Thu, 18/01/2018 - 10:19

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Hi All,this video is very helpful to learn something new and we can change our mood with social media.

Submitted by centauri on Fri, 05/01/2018 - 14:14

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This video is awsome! I like it very much. This story shows the need of the people of feeling special. I think the social media feed the ego and that´s the beginning of the unhapiness. This film, in my opinion, matchs accurate with the reality of the materialist western society

Submitted by Argo on Thu, 07/12/2017 - 09:47

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I dont like this exercise

Submitted by blackandscholes on Wed, 15/11/2017 - 10:20

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Well I guess I am trying not being affected much by facebook. But sometimes I cant stop asking myself what if I am ? After watching this video my opinion about social media changed considerably and teach me how to engage with it.

Submitted by R0se on Thu, 09/11/2017 - 12:05

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I think it does and since I haven't found the best way of spending less time on the social media and I really do not used to do the same the others does, I just don't use them! I mean I have had deactivated my instagram and facebook and I just enjoy of having a great meal or watching a good movie or theatre instead of worring about how would their photos affect the others.

Submitted by mesumemrr on Thu, 09/11/2017 - 10:58

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its true. Some people really live this stuation. It is very bad. And everything is not like social media. Instagram or whatsapp or twitter its does not matter.

Submitted by Tiara Regina Phasa on Thu, 09/11/2017 - 10:06

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First thing first, I would like to say that this video is so interesting as it shows the reality of life all around the world nowadays. It surely has. I think it's such a normal feeling for anyone that sometimes by looking other people posts can consciously/unconsciously affect our mood. It can be positive or negative. It depends on how we respond to them. In one hand, it can be such a mood booster, a kind of positive energy that can motivate us of doing something positive or being happy. On the other hand, someone's post can ruin our moods or feeling down and intimidated. Accordingly, there will always be various efforts to protect ourselves from this problem. One's solution might be different to the others. In my point of view, at first, we should realize that this feeling "it's normal". So, no worries. Secondly, people has their own unique life with the ups and downs. Thirdly, the common solution is we should be grateful for what we have by enjoying each precious moment mindfully. I myself do realize that it's always never easy to do them in action. At least, we know that life is full of uncertainties with lots of surprises. So, let's be inspired and inspire others :)

Submitted by JulianTak on Tue, 07/11/2017 - 15:48

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That is behaviours types are often in persons with so low self-esteem or they do not feel satisfied with yourself. For instance, when those type persons look posts with wonderful places by your friends they feel sadness or jealousy. That is behaviours types don't affect me yet. Another important aspect is trying to avoid any post with the only intention is affect mood.

Submitted by fazu on Sun, 29/10/2017 - 21:00

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The message it gives us that don't mourn yourself on what you don't have. Just be grateful on what you have. If you want to achieve something instead of crying work hard. How well do social media posts show real life. It depends on the person how he/she present the post.

Submitted by Adel33 on Fri, 27/10/2017 - 12:03

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Hi to all This way is very good for learn english Thanks for all member

Submitted by Marsha007 on Wed, 25/10/2017 - 07:55

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In my opinion, the most happy and peaceful person like Gandhi or mother Theresa never post about what they were doing in social media, they really enjoy the moment they live, and other people then, who post about these wonderful person's activity. So, I agree with Lucyao's opinion.

Submitted by Huong.vulan26 on Wed, 18/10/2017 - 04:20

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Hi, This video is interesting but it is difficult to understand at several first times of listening. I only just understood it when i checked transcript. How can i get information easily from listening?

Submitted by Peter M. on Wed, 18/10/2017 - 07:30

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Hi Huong.vulan26,

I'm afraid the only answer is practice and more practice! The more you listen, the better you will get. Using the transcript is a very good idea. After doing the exercises, try listening with the transcript (listening and reading). Then try saying the text yourself, which will help both with speaking and with familiarisation of what you are listening to. Finally, try saying it with (and at the same speed as) the recording. This will help you to develop speed in your speech and also to get used to the rhythms of spoken English, which will help you to understand it when you listen.

 

I hope those suggestions are helpful.

 

Best wishes,

Peter

The LearnEnglish Team

Submitted by VictoriaNY on Sun, 15/10/2017 - 10:08

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Once I also got into this situation and almost fell into a depression. Fortunately, I realized in time that I need to stop jealous of the beautiful picture in Instagram and make it in my real life. Therefore, I began to do more with myself, my home. But sometimes there are times when I again compare my life with a stranger. It's horrible! And it's so hard to get rid of it sometimes! And the best recipe for this is to work to get tired and that there would not be time to go into Instagram. Work heals! All happiness)

Submitted by papo on Sun, 01/10/2017 - 05:53

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it was good move but sometime vice was not cleare

Submitted by juano on Fri, 29/09/2017 - 21:27

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This short film is amazing. I think all we need to realize that the things one posts in social media do not necessarily correspond to the feelings one are having in an specific moment in the daily life

Submitted by Kamila696 on Thu, 28/09/2017 - 12:11

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It is a very interesting video. It is about that everyone has their own life, own problems. In social medias they are kind of happy everyday, every minute, but that not true, the sicial medias are masks for everyone

Submitted by inomjon-ramatov on Tue, 26/09/2017 - 10:10

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Actually, in my opinion , happy people don't have time to post their moments, they are always busy with interesting things than social media. Even me, when I am bored or I have no mood , I start chatting , watching someone's posted pictures and so on. (sorry for grammar mistakes, I am a new learner)

Submitted by nasirsust on Thu, 21/09/2017 - 23:04

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Social media is an open platform for every one.any one can post any thing what ever they like or not.specially people have posted their happy moments on social media in public page or their friend pages.i thinks we should not take as serious when I have seen public images or friends posting in social media.we should take as a fun and should not compare with own life.

Submitted by jack94 on Tue, 19/09/2017 - 22:53

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I've appreciated this video , it brightly shows how social media can make us feeling jealous about the other's life. We naturally tend to make comparisons between us and the other people and social media drives this tendency to an extreme level. Let's take facebook, the platform it's projected to make people interact through the creation of stories. It's not a case that the user's personal page it's called ''diary''. Every person on facebook create his story, a story made of photos that are usually taken in funny, happy, memorable moments (as the video shows). All this pictures give an image of who someone is but we never have to forget that what we see on facebook it's just a collection of pleasant moments of someonelse's life and not represent the reality of it, doesn't describe his personality either. Life and people are so much more than what we can see on social media. Especially Talking about posted photos, it happens sometimes that a post makes me feel jealous and dissatisfied because i would like to do the same thing as a friend does in that post. Othertimes i feel sad and my life doesn't seem so good if compared to the one of the others. In these moments i start to think about what i've read before, that is the fact that what we see it's just a little selected part of the story, not the whole thing.

Submitted by giacorsa on Mon, 18/09/2017 - 13:05

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I really agree with lucihao post. I think that we haven't to give too much importance to what we see or read in social media posts.

Submitted by lucyhao on Mon, 18/09/2017 - 12:21

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Actually, I think those who really have a nice life do not often post on the social media.

Submitted by Shishay Abraha on Sat, 16/09/2017 - 21:02

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Very good texts I am so happy!
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