People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
This is the opening of a poem by Brian A. 'Drew' Chalker. He seems to put friendships into three separate categories. He reminds us that not all friendships last forever, but the really special ones do.
Friends for a reason
These are friends who seem to come into your life to help you in some way. They may help you through a difficult time or offer you guidance or support.
Friends for a season
These are friends who come into your life at a certain time, for example you may study or work together. They can give you a lot of happiness, but it's only for a season, or a limited time.
Friends for a lifetime
These are the friendships which are built on a really solid foundation and last for the rest of your life.
We asked some of the members of the LearnEnglish team to tell us about one of their friendships. This is what they said.
A friend for a lifetime
I met Danielle through my housemate at university. We instantly clicked and couldn't stop talking and laughing. From the beginning, we always had millions of in-jokes that were only funny to us. Our friendship has taken us through many stages of life – student times, holidays together, different stories of love and heartbreak and her becoming a mother. She's hilarious, a brilliant thinker and the absolute best person in a crisis.
A friend for a reason but now for a lifetime
Sally and I were online colleagues, working from different countries. Right from the word go, we hit it off! I guess it's because we had a lot in common, like living abroad, bringing up bilingual children, and we were also of a similar age. Unfortunately the project we had been working on together for about four years, which we loved so much, was coming to an end and we were the only ones left working on it. From being a wonderful, fun, vibrant work environment, it had become a stressful and sad one to work in. Luckily, because we had each other, we could moan and groan, then laugh until we had tears rolling down our faces, and we'd get through the days together. Now I can say, hand on heart, she's a friend. A good friend. I miss working with her, but I know that she is only a WhatsApp call away.
Friends for a season
I met Carl in the fourth grade in the small rural school we both went to. We got along really well right from the beginning and were both interested in the same kinds of books, movies and games, and both loved to roam around in the woods behind our houses. Although we lived in the same town, we had to go to different schools for fifth grade. We still saw each other on the weekend sometimes, but over the year got together less and less often. After another year, we lost touch completely. Years later a mutual friend told me he'd run into Carl in the city, but I never saw or heard from him. I looked him up once on Facebook, but never found him.
Friends for a reason
When my daughter was born, I made a new friend called Emma. She had a baby the same age, and we met at a parent and baby group. When you have a new baby, things can be tough, especially when you're not getting much sleep! Neither of us had family living near, so we helped each other a lot. We used to see each other every day and did everyday things together, like going to the park or going shopping. A year or so later we both moved from that area and although we haven't kept in touch, I've got very fond memories of Emma. She was a really kind and fun friend.
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