Introverts – redressing the balance

Introverts – redressing the balance

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If I asked you to describe a great leader, I'd be willing to bet certain traits come to mind … someone charismatic, dynamic, inspiring, a confident public speaker. You're probably imagining a man too, but that's a bias we'll save for another talk! We tend to think of great leaders as people who naturally take to the stage, who draw other people to them by their sheer presence, who are extroverts. But history has also been transformed by people who don't fit these descriptions. People like Rosa Parks, Eleanor Roosevelt and Gandhi. These people would have described themselves as shy, quietly spoken … as introverts.

Of course we're drawn to extroverts. They're usually charming and persuasive, fun to be around. They're not quietly in the corner somewhere reading a book where we might not notice them. Introverts are mostly happy to let the extroverts take the attention; they'd rather not be in the spotlight, they'd rather finish that book. If they become leaders, it's not because they want to be the centre of attention, it's because they feel compelled to act. They lead not because they enjoy giving orders but because circumstances have put them in a position to make change. If they're the boss, they allow space for the ideas of others to grow because they're not trying to make their mark. An introvert sounds like a pretty good boss, right? You won't need to worry about them stealing your ideas or talking over you in a meeting.

Some of our great creators are introverts too. People like the writer JK Rowling, the great thinker Darwin and the designer of the first Apple computer, Steve Wozniak. It turns out coming up with good ideas is easier when you're engaged in quiet, solo contemplation than when you're leading the cheerleading squad. Not that I'm saying there's anything wrong with cheerleaders! Extroverts are great – some of my favourite people are extroverts. But why is the world so set up for extroverts and so hard for introverts? Why are we always encouraging our kids to speak up, join in, work as a team?

Nowadays, most schools and most workplaces are set up with the extrovert in mind. Children no longer sit in rows in desks, they sit in groups of four or six, doing group projects. Even subjects like maths and creative writing are taught with an emphasis on group collaboration, even though most writers sit alone in front of their computer or typewriter, with nothing between them and the blank page. A kid who prefers to go off into a corner and work alone starts to look like a problem. What's wrong with Janie? Why isn't she joining in? Studies show teachers think extroverts make better students, even though introverts actually tend to get higher grades. We're telling our introverted kids something is wrong with them, that they need to be more sociable, more outgoing. We're giving them fewer opportunities for the quiet contemplation they need in order to produce the best work and be their best selves.

And then at work we do the same. Most offices today are open plan, everyone working and creating noise in one big room, attending team-building workshops or group brainstorming sessions; the introverts' worst nightmares. The introverts at school are judged negatively by their teachers and when they reach the workplace, they're passed over for promotion into leadership positions. But introverts typically take fewer risks and make more careful decisions, and don't we need those traits too?

I'm not saying let's get rid of extroverts and grab all those talkative, sociable performers at primary school and send them off to the library for four hours a day of solitude until they learn to tone it down. I'm not saying that at all. I'm saying we're doing something like the opposite of that to introverts and we need to stop. We need to allow them space to be themselves and then we'll end up getting the most out of our extroverts and our introverts. Let's teach all our kids how to work with others and how to work on their own. Let's create space in offices and at conferences for people to work on their own when they want to and give them the opportunity to come together to share ideas. Let's give staff 'away days', where they go off into the woods, walk up a mountain or wherever, to work on something alone, as well as the 'team-building day' where everyone learns to dance salsa together.

The future is complicated, with a lot of huge, complex problems to solve. Let's make sure we've got our best people working on those problems in the way that suits them best. And then we've got to make sure we listen to our extroverts and our introverts and everyone who sits somewhere in between on the scale. We're going to need all of them.


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Submitted by famousmaz on Mon, 01/08/2022 - 04:26


Very good podcast. Thank you. I am an introvert cum extrovert.

Submitted by jmajo on Tue, 28/06/2022 - 14:22


Generally speaking I’m more of an introvert, but I can change depending on what I’m doing or the situation, when I’m at work and I need to get done some task that it would take days if I’d do it alone, I rather be a bit more extrovert and ask for help to distribute the task between my workmates than do it by my own but if the task requires focus or specific knowledge I prefer to do it alone to ensure it would be done right. I’m more introvert when I need to study or improve something in my home although I like to spend some time with friends and relatives as well.

Thanks for the episode!
Great site.

Submitted by mirianadicos on Tue, 12/04/2022 - 16:02


I wouldn't define myself as an introverted individual, since my personality takes different shapes according to the people I interact with. If someone makes me feel uncomfortable, I struggle to be myself to the fullest. On the other hand, I can be the most extroverted person in the room when someone is friendly and genuine.

Submitted by misty on Fri, 14/01/2022 - 19:27


Every person have different personality that constantly develop over time through experience. Despite, what personality a person have, being a good person doing good deeds is what matters most. For me, I consider myself as an introvert rather than extrovert. Instead, of socializing, attending gatherings, and going to an events, I prefer solitary time doing productive things to improve myself. One example, is studying English to improve my knowledge and skills.

Submitted by natalamyltasova on Fri, 17/12/2021 - 13:08


Actually, I was growing up as an intovert. I was one of those girls who didn't like to be involved into interaction with my peers. But, probably, the problem was that I didn't have a lot in common with them. Nowadays, I am a person who doesn't mind speaking or having a party with people who are interesting for me. But at the same time I still like being alone and don't suffer if there's no one to speak or hang out.

Submitted by fridagomezl on Fri, 15/10/2021 - 10:58


I consider myself at the beginning someone introverted but when I start to feel comfortable I can be more extrovert, I enjoy to help each other, lead a group, but make people feel that we are on the same line, I don't like people who feel more than you only because they're the leader.
Also, I think that I have to be less shame, cause sometimes I stand still for been shame.

Submitted by Suraj paliwal on Thu, 14/10/2021 - 15:25


I'm totally introvert, but I realised that extrovert are very loved person. But I know that introvert are better than extrovert.

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Submitted by Hennadii on Wed, 19/05/2021 - 19:39

I'm 100% introvert and this article right about me. I hate noise and open space offices. That's why I'm glad we can work from home how despite the reason of this isolation is quite serious. I also don't like meetings where I need to listen to my talkative colleagues. And all this team-building stuff ... hoo-boy ... just leave me alone, I know what I'm doing. I mean, I'm not a rude or an asocial person - I usually get well with my co-workers. I just don't like being disturbed by crapy talks or gossips or someone's shouts. I like to sit quietly and do my job without making unnecessary noise.

Submitted by yomisaurio on Fri, 30/04/2021 - 05:26

I was all my life beeing an introvert person, but when I started the university I realised that if you want to be hear, you have to be loud and to talk to anothers, so I changed my personality. But also, it depends if I'm with my friends or with peopole that I dont know.
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Submitted by El Cuy Mágico on Fri, 19/02/2021 - 20:42

I’d say both introvert and extrovert, I mean it depends on where or whit whom I am. I really appreciate loneliness cause I feel I can reflect and think more slowly before I act. But I also like to chat with others and exchange ideas. Moreover, I like to debate with people who think in another way that I do.